Updated: Oct 9, 2020
A safe space is a place within you. A place in which you feel comfortable, find harmony, can recharge your energy and can fully express. This space is built on clear boundaries, self-reflection, awareness and the conscious intention of taking regular me-time to spend in self-care activities.
A safe space is a metaphorical place in which you can find shelter when life becomes too much, and you need to cool off. It's a space where you can restore your balance while working on your self-esteem, self-awareness, and resilience. It's an imaginary location that you can enter to engage in self-care and reduce your stress.
Overlooking the importance of nurturing such a space and forget that only by practising regular self-care, there will be enough strength and resilience when it comes to taking care of others.
Fortunately, that space can be established at any point in life, and once you establish your basic needs and know how to fulfil them, you will be able to enter this space every time you feel like. Yet, you have to keep taking good care of it, and with regular practice, it will become an easy state to reach.
Amidst all the errands accomplished daily, it is easy to overlook the value of taking the time to do things you love and make you feel good.
When an unpredictable event shakes a fragile balance, the risk is losing oneself in the intense emotions that follow. This is the reason why it is vital to plan for unexpected emotional hurdles by building and maintaining this space to retreat into when the time comes.
Every person is different, so will be their safe space. Essentially a safe space is built on learning how to show yourself love and respect and engaging in self-care practices. Get involved in activities that help you reach a state of calmness and relaxation. Practice these activities regularly and make them become part of your routine.
Enjoying these moments in which you become your priority, will teach your mind how to reach a state of well-being quickly. Practising them with regularity will slowly change your mindset, and help you relax when you need to.
Here are some ideas of mindful activities that you can choose from, to add to your daily routine.
Walking in nature
Listening to music
Art and Crafts activities
Participating in sport activities
It is not very important how many and what type of activity you choose, the only rule is that you need to like them and make them become your habit. When life becomes rough, they will help to bring you comfort and restore you to balance.
You will notice improvements over time as both, the conscious and subconscious mind, love habits.
Life, however, is unpredictable, and your safe space won't help you to avoid the challenges that it present. Still, having the right tools will help you face difficulties with a different mindset.
When you are in distress and need a place where to feel safe, and you've not built yourself a "safe space" yet, do not feel compelled to face your challenges alone. Call a friend, a family member or someone you trust. If you do not have somebody close by, even a perfect stranger can be a source of comfort. Contact a helpline, a support group, or a trained counsellor.
You may be the only one who feels your pain, but you don't have to face it alone.
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