When Emotions Are Talking to You

The way we deal with the range of emotions we are experiencing daily impacts our perception of ourselves and our environment.

When one is having a good time, the expectation is to feel great. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. Good times may still be accompanied by feelings of sadness, anxiety or frustration for no apparent reason.

Having a great life, an exciting job, a lovely home, good friends, while not feeling ok, gives a feeling of uselessness and impairs the ability to appreciate all the good surrounding you.

Where are these uncomfortable feelings coming from?

These feelings often develop from ignored needs or priorities, negative self-talk and constant ruminating over past events. A rigid perspective about oneself and other negative habits like lack of self-compassion or acceptance can also lead to unwelcomed feelings. In the long run, these and other unhelpful behaviours have consequences.

You may begin by feeling a sense of bitterness, then become resentful, withdrawn, or excessively critical towards yourself or others, and not even realize these changes, let alone the reasons behind them.

Negative feelings have a purpose. They alert you about something that you are either ignoring or disrespecting your values or your boundaries. By neglecting those signs, we expose ourselves to depression, anxiety, stress.

Moreover, having negative emotions, while nothing wrong happens, can lead to guilt, unfairness, unappreciative, and ungrateful, and adding more pressure to an already challenging situation.

"You are perfect exactly as you are. With all your flaws and problems, there's no need to change anything. All you need to change is the thought that you aren't good enough."

J. Cole.

Therefore, it is vital to explore and understand when uncomfortable feelings arise, especially if everything seems perfect but you don’t feel right. There is always a reason behind those feelings. Take the time to assess if there is something you are avoiding seeing. Evaluate your life, and be honest with yourself. Learn how to show yourself some love and how to take care of yourself.