top of page

Healing from Within: The Journey through Inner Child Work in Three Steps

Reparenting inner child

Inner child healing is a profoundly transformative process that involves reconnecting with and nurturing the wounded aspects of our inner child—the younger, vulnerable self within us.

The inner child is the representation of the early years of life when core beliefs, coping mechanisms, and emotional patterns are formed.

Inner child work appreciates that many of our emotional patterns, beliefs, and behaviours stem from unresolved childhood experiences and traumas and aims to provide healing and integration by acknowledging, validating, and reparenting the wounded child.

Inner Child Wound: Explore, Heal, Thrive

Unresolved childhood traumas arise from suppressed experiences that were perceived as painful by the child. In the attempt to heal unresolved issues, your inner child may sabotage your adult experience by replicating immature and unhelpful protective behaviours. Reparenting your inner child requires consistent dedication but will open up unique opportunities for your healing journey.

Your inner child has been waiting for years to be lovingly embraced.

Through inner child healing, individuals explore and address their unmet emotional needs, painful memories, and negative beliefs that originated in childhood. By revisiting these experiences with compassion and understanding, individuals begin to release deep-seated emotional wounds, reclaim lost parts of themselves, and using self compassion to cultivate a sense of wholeness.

Inner Child Work: Three Steps to Reconnect

Healing the inner child involves acknowledging and validating past emotional wounds, often stemming from experiences like neglect, abandonment, or invalidation. It aims to provide the love, support, and understanding that have been lacking during formative years. Through various therapeutic techniques, individuals explore and reframe past events, allowing for the release of suppressed feelings and the development of healthier coping mechanisms.

Hero child with black swans

By connecting your inner child to your internal being,

you bring out the hero in you that is inside all of us.

Kim Ha Campbell

The exercise below shows the first steps to reconnect with the inner child.

Step 1: Connect

The first step is to gather memories of yourself as a child and write them down. Write about feelings, thoughts, positive memories, and fears. Remember which your favourite toys were, who you liked to be with, what you enjoyed and whatnot. Collect some childhood pictures, notice details and begin to visualise yourself. If possible, ask others to help you with their memories of you as a child.

Step 2: Communicate

Allocate some time daily, sit in a quiet, comfortable room, and close your eyes. Now, try to visualise yourself as a child, try to remember yourself in a specific situation.

If visualisations are not your strength, print a picture of yourself as a child and have a conversation with the child in the picture. Alternatively, use a mirror and begin your inner child work by talking to the person in the mirror. That person carries the inner child at all times.

Ask yourself questions about specific moments, give yourself time and observe.

  • How does the child feel?

  • What does the child need?

  • What can you say or do to support that child now?

It is essential not to try to control the situation but simply be there and observe your thoughts and feelings. The more often you try, the easier it will become to maintain the connection with your inner child and access it in the future.

Step 3: Nurture

Now, you can move to the last step and give your inner child what it needs. You can address these needs during your visualisation, position your adult self as a parent, hold and nurture your child self in your arms, be loving toward this little being, and send feelings of unconditional love and safety.

Other options are addressing the child's needs by fulfilling wishes in different ways, such as writing letters from the child's perspective, exploring your playful self, and allowing yourself healing moments by interpreting the child and fulfilling their needs.

Colourful tunnel

Beautify your inner dialogue. Beautify your inner world

with love light and compassion. Life will be beautiful.

Amit Ray

Final Thoughts

When rekindling your past is about uncovering traumatic experiences, it's better to reach out to a professional. Inner child work with a therapist may involve various therapeutic techniques, such as guided visualisation, inner dialogue, expressive arts therapy, and somatic experiencing. These methods help individuals access and engage with their inner child in a protected and supportive environment, allowing them to express and process suppressed emotions and memories.

Ultimately, inner child healing fosters self-awareness, self-love, and emotional resilience. By nurturing and integrating the wounded inner child, individuals can experience profound healing, inner peace, and a greater sense of authenticity and empowerment.

Remember that you don't have to face everything alone and find someone you trust to talk to. If you need someone to talk to, a helpline, a support group, your GP or a counsellor can make a difference and offer support.

Subscribe to this website and get 15 minutes of free online consultations. 



bottom of page