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How to Find the Best Counsellor for You?

Updated: Feb 7, 2021

Since every person’s emotional world works differently, no one counsellor is the perfect fit for every individual. When you are looking for the right fit, the key is to notice how you feel with your therapist. You might be lucky and find the best counsellor straight away but, in most cases, it can be a little more frustrating as you will have to meet with more than one before finding the right match for yourself.

When you start seeing a therapist, your relationship should be based on mutual trust.

When you are with your counsellor, you should be able to feel safe and your emotions respected. The reason for this is that it takes a lot to open up to a stranger about your difficulties, vulnerabilities and fears; what comes up in future sessions are very personal and often painful topics.

“Courage doesn’t happen when you have all the answers. It happens when

you are ready to face the questions you have been avoiding your whole life.”

Shannon L. Alder

So, where can you start?

Few practical things you need to pay attention to:

  • A counsellor must have completed a recognised course. This is the guarantee that the counsellor has completed adequate study and training.

  • A counsellor registered with a counselling association. This guarantees that they have the required qualifications from and undertake regular further development.

  • A registered counsellor undertakes supervision regularly. This ensures that they are committed to delivering an excellent service.

  • Lastly, they should have proof of suitable insurance.

Unfortunately, none of these will guarantee your therapy's success as a positive outcome depends on several factors. Therefore, trust your instincts and maybe ask friends and family if they have ever attended a counselling session before and if they would recommend that counsellor.

Emotional response you should pay attention to:

  • Do you feel safe, seen and respected during the session?

  • Do you feel listened and understood to what you’re saying?

  • Does the therapist interrupt you while you are talking?